Every Burial is a Ceremony

by: Cathy Valentine

GBSC Board Member

The ancient act of burying our loved ones is a simple and yet profound ceremony.

There are three required acts to a burial, and three intentions that match these. Firstly, we dig the grave; we prepare a nest for our loved one. Then we bring our person to the grave and we tell them how much we love(d) them and all the wonderful things about them. In doing this we conjure their life again; we invite them into the present moment and place.

Secondly, we lower their body into the earth. With this act we have the opportunity to wish them well, to say: “we are so sad and we will miss you so much”, and yet, “we give you our love and blessings to pass on.”

Thirdly, we fill the grave with flowers and soil and close them into the earth’s embrace, and like it or not, we must walk away. This is the hardest intention, but we can try – to walk away without the burden of mixed attachments, to have a heart full of love for the person and gratitude for sharing life with them, and a letting go – for their sake and ours.

Ceremony supports us in facing our grief and fear in a practical and sacred way, to express our emotions, our loss, through action.

— Cathy Valentine, GBSC Board Member

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Frequently Asked Questions

What is a natural burial ceremony?
A natural burial ceremony is a simple, meaningful process that focuses on returning the body to the earth without embalming, vaults, or synthetic materials. It emphasizes connection, ritual, and environmental responsibility.
How is a green burial ceremony different from a traditional funeral?
Green burial ceremonies are often more personal and participatory. Families may take part in carrying, lowering, or closing the grave, creating a more intimate and meaningful experience compared to conventional services.
Can families participate in the burial process?
Yes. Many green burial ceremonies invite family and friends to take part in the process, including preparing the grave, carrying the body, and helping to return the earth. This participation can be an important part of the grieving process.
Is a ceremony required for a natural burial?
No. A ceremony is not required, but it is strongly encouraged. Ritual and ceremony help people express grief, honour life, and create a sense of closure.
What happens during the burial itself?
The burial typically includes three key acts: preparing the grave, lowering the body, and closing the grave. Each step offers an opportunity for reflection, expression, and letting go.
Where can I find green burial services in Canada?
You can explore certified providers, cemeteries, and services through the Green Burial Society of Canada directory to ensure practices align with recognized standards.

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